Q. Is it permissible for a husband to deny his wife intimacy after ifthar because he doesnt want to do anything for the month of Ramadan? He says that he wants to do everything right and abstain from all pleasures but the wife disagrees.
A. It is extremism on the part of the husband to abstain from engaging in intimacy and conjugal relations with his wife during the nights/permissible times during Ramadaan/fasting. This is not the essence of Islam. In fact, the Quran specifically permits intimacy and conjugal relations with ones wife during the nights of Ramadaan/fasting. Allah Ta’ala mentions:
It is made lawful for you, in the nights of fasts, to have conjugal relations with your women. (Baqarah 187)
Therefore, he should be advised accordingly to keep his practices of Ramadaan/fasting in accordance to the Shariah and not his own individual understanding.
Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ismaeel Bassa