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Severing family ties with ones divorced parents family<\/strong><\/h4>\n
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Q. My mother who is divorced is not happy with me meeting my father\u2019s sisters and his other relatives. At first she refused to let me meet them, then she left the decision on me. I know she won\u2019t be too happy if I meet them. In this case, am I supposed to maintain my relations with my blood relatives, or listen to my mom\u2019s wish?
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A.<\/strong> Shariah has emphasized on maintaining family ties. Consider the following:<\/p>\n

\u0648\u064e\u0627\u062a\u0651\u064e\u0642\u064f\u0648\u0627 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0647\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0630\u0650\u064a \u062a\u064e\u0633\u064e\u0627\u0621\u064e\u0644\u064f\u0648\u0646\u064e \u0628\u0650\u0647<\/strong> \u0648\u064e\u0627\u0644\u0652\u0623\u064e\u0631\u0652\u062d\u064e\u0627\u0645\u064e \u0650
\n<\/strong><\/p>\n

Fear Allah in whom (in whose name) you ask (for things and take promises) from each other and (fear breaking) family ties (live amicably). (Nisaa: 4 \u2013 1)<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0639\u0646 \u0623\u064e\u0628\u064a \u0647\u0631\u064a\u0631\u0629 \u0631\u0636\u064a \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0639\u0646\u0647: \u0623\u0646 \u0631\u064e\u0633\u064f\u0648\u0644 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 -\u0635\u0644\u0649 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0639\u0644\u064a\u0647 \u0648\u0633\u0644\u0645 – \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e: \u00ab\u0645\u064e\u0646\u0652 \u0643\u064e\u0627\u0646\u064e \u064a\u064f\u0624\u0652\u0645\u0650\u0646\u064f \u0628\u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064a\u064e\u0648\u0645\u0650 \u0627\u0644\u0622\u062e\u0650\u0631\u0650\u060c \u0641\u064e\u0644\u0652\u064a\u064f\u0643\u0652\u0631\u0650\u0645\u0652 \u0636\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0641\u064e\u0647\u064f\u060c \u0648\u064e\u0645\u064e\u0646\u0652 \u0643\u064e\u0627\u0646\u064e \u064a\u064f\u0624\u0652\u0645\u0650\u0646\u064f \u0628\u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064a\u064e\u0648\u0645\u0650 \u0627\u0644\u0622\u062e\u0650\u0631\u0650\u060c \u0641\u064e\u0644\u0652\u064a\u064e\u0635\u0650\u0644\u0652 \u0631\u064e\u062d\u0650\u0645\u064e\u0647\u064f\u060c \u0648\u064e\u0645\u064e\u0646\u0652 \u0643\u064e\u0627\u0646\u064e \u064a\u064f\u0624\u0652\u0645\u0650\u0646\u064f \u0628\u0650\u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064a\u064e\u0648\u0645\u0650 \u0627\u0644\u0622\u062e\u0650\u0631\u0650\u060c \u0641\u064e\u0644\u0652\u064a\u064e\u0642\u064f\u0644\u0652 \u062e\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0631\u064b\u0627 \u0623\u064e\u0648\u0652 \u0644\u0650\u064a\u064e\u0635\u0652\u0645\u064f\u062a\u0652\u00bb
\n<\/strong><\/p>\n

It is reported on the authority of Abu Huraira Radiallahu Anhu that Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: \u201cHe who believes in Allah and the last day should honor his guest; and he who believes in Allah and the last day should maintain good family ties; and he who believes in Allah and the last day should utter something good or observe silence. (Bukhari, 6138, book of etiquettes, chapter on honoring ones guests and personally attending to his needs)<\/strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0639\u0646 \u0623\u0646\u0633\u064d – \u0631\u0636\u064a \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0639\u0646\u0647: \u0623\u0646 \u0631\u064e\u0633\u064f\u0648\u0644 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 – \u0635\u0644\u0649 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0639\u0644\u064a\u0647 \u0648\u0633\u0644\u0645 – \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e: \u00ab\u0645\u0646 \u0623\u064e\u062d\u064e\u0628\u0651\u064e \u0623\u064e\u0646\u0652 \u064a\u064f\u0628\u0652\u0633\u064e\u0637\u064e \u0644\u064e\u0647\u064f \u0641\u064a \u0631\u0650\u0632\u0652\u0642\u0650\u0647\u0650\u060c \u0648\u064a\u064f\u0646\u0652\u0633\u0623\u064e \u0644\u064e\u0647\u064f \u0641\u064a \u0623\u062b\u064e\u0631\u0650\u0647\u0650\u060c \u0641\u064e\u0644\u0652\u064a\u064e\u0635\u0650\u0644\u0652 \u0631\u064e\u062d\u0650\u0645\u064e\u0647\u064f\u00bb.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It is also reported on the authority of Anas Radiallahu Anhu that Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: \u201cHe who desires abundance in his sustenance and his life prolonged should maintain good family ties.\u201d<\/em>( Bukhari, 5986, book of etiquettes, chapter on increase in sustenance for he who maintains family ties)<\/strong><\/p>\n

Shariah also emphasizes on the rights of both parents; the father and mother. Consider the following:<\/p>\n

\u0648\u064e\u0642\u064e\u0636\u064e\u0649\u0631\u064e\u0628\u0651\u064f\u0643\u064e \u0623\u064e\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0627 \u062a\u064e\u0639\u0652\u0628\u064f\u062f\u064f\u0648\u0627 \u0625\u0650\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0627 \u0625\u0650\u064a\u0651\u064e\u0627\u0647\u064f \u0648\u064e\u0628\u0650\u0627\u0644\u0652\u0648\u064e\u0627\u0644\u0650\u062f\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0646\u0650 \u0625\u0650\u062d\u0652\u0633\u064e\u0627\u0646\u064b\u0627 \u0625\u0650\u0645\u0651\u064e\u0627 \u064a\u064e\u0628\u0652\u0644\u064f\u063a\u064e\u0646\u0651\u064e \u0639\u0650\u0646\u0652\u062f\u064e\u0643\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0652\u0643\u0650\u0628\u064e\u0631\u064e \u0623\u064e\u062d\u064e\u062f\u064f\u0647\u064f\u0645\u064e\u0627 \u0623\u064e\u0648\u0652\u0643\u0650\u0644\u064e\u0627\u0647\u064f\u0645\u064e\u0627 \u0641\u064e\u0644\u064e\u0627 \u062a\u064e\u0642\u064f\u0644\u0652 \u0644\u064e\u0647\u064f\u0645\u064e\u0627 \u00a0\u00a0\u0623\u064f\u0641\u0651\u064d \u0648\u064e\u0644\u064e\u0627 \u062a\u064e\u0646\u0652\u0647\u064e\u0631\u0652\u0647\u064f\u0645\u064e\u0627 \u0648\u064e\u0642\u064f\u0644\u0652 \u0644\u064e\u0647\u064f\u0645\u064e\u0627 \u0642\u064e\u0648\u0652\u0644\u064b\u0627 \u0643\u064e\u0631\u0650\u064a\u0645\u064b\u0627 \u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0627\u062e\u0652\u0641\u0650\u0636\u0652 \u0644\u064e\u0647\u064f\u0645\u064e\u0627<\/strong> \u062c\u064e\u0646\u064e\u0627\u062d\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0630\u0651\u064f\u0644\u0651\u0650 \u0645\u0650\u0646\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0631\u0651\u064e\u062d\u0652\u0645\u064e\u0629\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0642\u064f\u0644\u0652 \u0631\u064e\u0628\u0651\u0650 \u0627\u0631\u0652\u062d\u064e\u0645\u0652\u0647\u064f\u0645\u064e\u0627 \u0643\u064e\u0645\u064e\u0627\u00a0 \u0631\u064e\u0628\u0651\u064e\u064a\u064e\u0627\u0646\u0650\u064a<\/strong> \u0635\u064e\u063a\u0650\u064a\u0631\u064b\u0627<\/strong> \u0650\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n

Your Rabb has commanded that you worship only him and that you treat your parents kindly. If any one of the two (of your parents), or both of them reaches old age, then do not even tell them \u2018Oof!\u2019(Or anything else that may cause them hurt) and do not rebuke them (even though they may be at fault). (Always) Speak gently to them. (Never raise your voice when speaking to them, speak with respect and never speak to them harshly.) Lower for them the wings of humility (always be humble and soft hearted towards them) out of compassion and say, \u201cO my Rabb! Show mercy to them (my parents) as they had (been merciful towards me when they) raised me when I was young.\u201d ( Bani Israeel: 23-24)<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0639\u0646 \u0623\u064e\u0628\u064a \u0639\u0628\u062f \u0627\u0644\u0631\u062d\u0645\u0627\u0646 \u0639\u0628\u062f \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0628\u0646 \u0645\u0633\u0639\u0648\u062f – \u0631\u0636\u064a \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0639\u0646\u0647 – \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e: \u0633\u0623\u0644\u062a \u0627\u0644\u0646\u0628\u064a – \u0635\u0644\u0649 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0639\u0644\u064a\u0647 \u0648\u0633\u0644\u0645: \u0623\u064a\u0651\u064f \u0627\u0644\u0639\u064e\u0645\u064e\u0644\u0650 \u0623\u062d\u064e\u0628\u0651\u064f \u0625\u0650\u0644\u064e\u0649<\/strong> \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647\u0650 \u062a\u064e\u0639\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e\u0649\u061f \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e: \u00ab\u0627\u0644\u0635\u0651\u064e\u0644\u0627\u0629\u064f \u0639\u064e\u0644\u064e\u0649 \u0648\u064e\u0642\u0652\u062a\u0650\u0647\u064e\u0627\u00bb\u060c \u0642\u064f\u0644\u0652\u062a\u064f: \u062b\u064f\u0645\u0651\u064e \u0623\u064a\u061f \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e: \u00ab\u0628\u0650\u0631\u0651\u064f \u0627\u0644\u0648\u064e\u0627\u0644\u0650\u062f\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0646\u0650\u00bb\u060c \u0642\u064f\u0644\u0652\u062a\u064f: \u062b\u064f\u0645\u0651\u064e \u0623\u064a\u0651\u064c\u061f \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e: \u00ab\u0627\u0644\u062c\u0650\u0647\u064e\u0627\u062f\u064f \u0641\u064a \u0633\u0628\u064a\u0644\u0650 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647\u00bb
\n<\/strong><\/p>\n

It is reported on the authority of Abu Abdur Rahmaan Abdullah Ibn Mas\u2019ood Radiallahu Anhu who said, I asked Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam: \u201cWhich is the most beloved action to Allah?\u201d He said: \u201cThe performance of salaah on its time\u201d. I then said: \u201cWhich is the most beloved action to Allah afterwards?\u201d He said: \u201cMaintaining good family relations with one\u2019s parents\u201d. I then said: \u201cWhich is the most beloved action to Allah afterwards?\u201d He said: \u201cJihaad in the path of Allah.\u201d ( Bukhari, 527, book on the times of salaah, chapter on the virtue of performing salaah on its time)<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0639\u0646 \u0623\u064e\u0628\u064a \u0647\u0631\u064a\u0631\u0629 – \u0631\u0636\u064a \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0639\u0646\u0647 – \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e: \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e \u0631\u064e\u0633\u064f\u0648\u0644 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 – \u0635\u0644\u0649 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647 \u0639\u0644\u064a\u0647 \u0648\u0633\u0644\u0645: \u00ab\u0644\u0627\u064e \u064a\u064e\u062c\u0652\u0632\u0650\u064a \u0648\u064e\u0644\u064e\u062f\u064c \u0648\u064e\u0627\u0644\u0650\u062f\u064b\u0627 \u0625\u0650\u0644\u0627\u0651\u064e \u0623\u064e\u0646\u0652 \u064a\u064e\u062c\u0650\u062f\u064e\u0647\u064f \u0645\u064e\u0645\u0652\u0644\u064f\u0648\u0643\u064b\u0627\u060c \u0641\u064e\u064a\u064e\u0634\u0652\u062a\u064e\u0631\u0650\u064a\u0647\u064f \u0641\u064e\u064a\u064f\u0639\u0652\u062a\u0650\u0642\u064e\u0647\u064f\u00bb. <\/strong><\/p>\n

It is also reported on the authority of Abu Huraira Radiallahu Anhu who said: Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: \u201cA child cannot compensate his parent unless he finds him to be a slave, buys him and then frees him.\u201d (Muslim, 1510, book on freeing slaves, chapter on the virtues of freeing ones parents)<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your mother\u2019s displeasure with your father and his family is understandable especially in the context of divorce. You should explain to your mother your sympathy for her but you wish to do the right thing. If something is wrong in the court of Allah then it cannot be justified in any way. Consider the following:<\/p>\n

\u0639\u064e\u0646\u0650 \u0627\u0644\u0652\u062d\u064e\u0633\u064e\u0646\u0650\u060c \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e: \u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e \u0631\u064e\u0633\u064f\u0648\u0644\u064f \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0647\u0650 \u0635\u064e\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0649 \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0647\u064f \u0639\u064e\u0644\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0647\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0633\u064e\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0645\u064e: \u0644\u064e\u0627 \u0637\u064e\u0627\u0639\u064e\u0629\u064e \u0644\u0650\u0645\u064e\u062e\u0652\u0644\u064f\u0648\u0642\u064d \u0641\u0650\u064a \u0645\u064e\u0639\u0652\u0635\u0650\u064a\u064e\u0629\u0650 \u0627\u0644\u0652\u062e\u064e\u0627\u0644\u0650\u0642\u0650<\/strong><\/p>\n

It is reported from Hasan Radiallahu Anhu that Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: \u201cThere is no obedience in following the creation whilst the creator is disobeyed.\u201d <\/em>(Musannaf Ibne Abi Shaiba, 33717, book on slaves, chapter on following a leader who commands that which is wrong)<\/strong><\/p>\n

However, you should be wise and diplomatic in discussing the issue with your mother.<\/p>\n

Allah Ta\u2019ala Knows Best<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mufti Ismaeel Bassa<\/strong><\/p>\n

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